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"So, I was at the bar when this guy..."

“So, I was at the bar when this guy…”

Ever hear a story start out that way? I have… I’ve heard some end well, and some end poorly. 

One of my friends from school had a bad story that started out this way… It ended with a bloody nose, black eye, and him needing 14 stitches in the back of his head. 

He got off easy. Here’s Mike’s story. 

The problem started over a girl… Mike was at the bar ordering a drink when he saw this attractive young lady next to him. 

Naturally, he started talking to her when all-of-a-sudden her boyfriend showed up. Usually this would be a simple misunderstanding, but not tonight. 

He tried talking to the guy, but it was too late, the JUICED-UP JUGGERNAUT heard enough and swung a punch at him. 

Mike was unaware and didn’t have his hands up and was knocked back against the bar… Almost unconscious, he swings back, hitting nothing but air, while the boyfriend PUNCHED him a few more times. 

He fell, hit his head on the bar and was knocked out. 

Luckily for Mike, the bouncers jumped in and took the jealous boyfriend away. 

Mike trains at our academy now… he tells me he wishes he learned our Kickboxing and self defence system a LONG TIME AGO! 

Give me a call on 07765202363 to book a 1 to 1 introduction session with one of our instructors. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts

1 missing ingredient...‏

1 missing ingredient…‏

I feel this is an important article. See… there’s a good chance that you too have noticed something in our culture…
A distance growing between people.
Everything seems to be speeding up, faster and faster, day after day. In fact – many of us end up spending our meal times alone, or eating while we’re
working / driving / watching TV / etc.
However, I’d like to propose something to you today. And maybe you already do what I’m about to say. If so, great! Keep it up!
But if not, this could really change you and your family’s lives.
That one thing is to have dinner together, around a table, with the TV / radio / mobile  phones off… just 1 time this week.
If you’re not used to this – your family might grunt and groan and beg for that TV to go back on! But encourage them to give it a shot. I think you’ll be amazed with how well it goes.
And if it doesn’t go so well? Well, it’s still an opportunity for growth, because you can find out what it would take to make something like a dinner together happen.
To a great rest of the week,

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How Will You Leave Your Signature?

How Will You Leave Your Signature?

Doesn’t everyone want to do something in their lifetime for which they will be remembered?  Don’t you want a sense of permanence?  Wouldn’t you like the world to know you “were there?”  If the answer was “no,” why would there be passports or pictures or yearbooks or gravestones?
I believe you were designed for action and achievement.  When your actions are aligned with your higher purpose, you will possess boundless energy and enthusiasm.  Your challenge is not often in the pursuit of leaving your signature, but in the development of the courage to decide where to leave it in the first place. Here are three steps that will help you:

How To Leave Your Signature Behind

Step 1: Create Your Vision

Every mark on history starts with a vision.  In the case of the Arena at Pula, an Emperor had a vision thousands of years into the future.  The only difference between him and you was perhaps the size of his vision.

What do you want to be remembered for?  Until you ask this question, there is little chance of doing something great.  Once you have answered this question, however, you have set a vision that can be the vehicle to put you on the path in the direction you need to go.
Set goals.

Step 2: Define Your Mission

Did you ever get in the car, turn the key and not know where you were going?  Although that might sound crazy, it is no crazier than waking every day with the same dreams and no map to get there.  Once you understand what it is you want, you will need definitive plans on exactly how to get there.  This step makes sure that you write the list that aligns with your vision.
Make a plan of what you will need to do in order to achieve those goals.

Step 3: Chip Away Every Day

In order to leave something behind of note, you will have to take consistent action.  This step is not only most critical, but the one that stops most people.  Once you are in the car, have turned the key and have directions, your actions are the small presses on the gas pedal which will give you forward momentum. Taking small steps each day in the direction of your vision and mission will eventually get you there. The key in Step 3 is to just keep “chipping away.”
Work towards your goals consistently every day.


You were designed to be great.  You have limitless potential.  You can choose to scratch the surface of history and do something iconic.  My suggestion is that you scratch hard, scratch often and make that scratch across time as deep as possible so that the world will be unable to ignore your “signature.”

Don’t know where to start?  A great place to get the motivation and direction you might be looking for is at Total Martial Arts.

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts


The Japanese are famous for their
kaizen” mindset.
To constantly improve each day and make small adjustments that over time has a massive impact on results.
The famous entrepreneur Anthony Robbins re-labelled this concept for western folks and called it “C-A-N-I”.
Which stands for Constant Never Ending Improvement.
With that in mind I applied this principle when I was designing and developing my children’s martial arts programme.
The programme has gone on to win national awards, which is a great honour.
I use C-A-N-I every day of my life and try and instill it in all my students in every  class that I teach.
Sifu Tony Child
Founder, Chief Instructor & Success Coach
Total Martial Arts

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10 Ways To Change Your STINKING Thinking

10 Ways To Change Your STINKING Thinking

  1. Instead of thinking your problem is too tough, think about how to solve it.
  2. Instead of thinking your situation is bad, think about how to improve it.
  3. Instead of thinking you are not talented enough, think about how to be better.
  4. Instead of thinking you don’t have enough, think about how to get what you want.
  5. Instead of thinking you don’t know enough, think about how to find out.
  6. Instead of thinking you are out of shape, think about how to shape up.
  7. Instead of thinking about what you can’t do, think about what you can.
  8. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, think about what you do.
  9. Instead of thinking your life should be easier, think about how to be more awesome.
  10. Instead of thinking your troubles are someone else’s fault, think about accepting responsibility.

Look at both sides of each sentence. Read the “Instead of,” until the comma.  Does that person sound like someone you know?

Now read the “think about,” until the period.  Does that sound like a person you would like to become?

The question is: Which way do you think?

The best news is that it is all under your control!  In the end, your success (or lack thereof) will be a product of how you think…Cogito ergo sum.   Control how you think, that will control how you act.  Control how you act, that will control how you get.

The more you think positively, the better you will get at it.  You have to find the time to do it. It you don’t think you have time, make time!  I wish I could say it as poetically, but I will let Thoreau handle that:

“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”

Earl Nightingale once said, “You become what you think about most of the time.”  If that is true, don’t waste your time thinking life should be easier, invest your time thinking about ways to be more valuable.

Food for thought!

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts

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Like a Samurai...‏

The other day I sent out an email
about the importance of discipline.
Then I remembered an awesome
example: Samurai!
Did you know that samurai would
wake up every day, and literally
spend the entire day until the evening
practicing and honing their skills?
Crazy, I know!
Yet there have never been swordsmen
of their caliber since their fall.
Sifu Tony Child
Founder, Chief Instructor & Success Coach
Total Martial Arts

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Dont make these 3 mistakes

Whenever I’m teaching classes at the gym or answering emails about Martial Arts, there are 3 common mistakes people make that drive me crazy!
#1. Making Excuses
“I don’t have the time”….
No, you just don’t make the time. Do you watch TV or go out on weekends? Well, those are the times that motivated people are using to make strides towards their dreams.
“I don’t have the money”….
Maybe, but are you spending money in other areas that aren’t completely necessary? Are you eating out often? Or maybe you like to go out on the weekends and spend your cash at the bar?
If Martial arts and fitness is your priority, you’ll save the money to train.

#2. No Team or Support System

Martial arts might be an “individual” activity, but the successful martial artist knows how critically important it is to have a team of motivated, knowledgeable people who are helping you push harder and learn each and every day.
If you want to improve and have any chance at reaching your goals, you need quality coaches and you need quality training partners… it’s that simple!

You’re a product of your environment and the people you surround yourself with… so why not surround yourself with the best?

3. Not “Wanting It” Enough
         “When you want to succeed as badly as you want to breathe,
           then you’ll be successful.” – Eric Thomas
How bad do you really want to do it?
Do you just say you want to do it… or do you actually do it?
Do you make the necessary sacrifices and put in the hours?
Are you disciplined enough to commit long term to accomplishing your dreams?
Only YOU can answer those questions honestly, and they can be more difficult to answer than you might think… but ultimately, reaching your goals is up to you.
If you are 100% committed to martial arts training and truly dedicating yourself to improving day-in and day-out, then I invite you to join the #1 place to take your training to the next level…

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts

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That one forbidden word that every parent dreads...

Okay, so before we get started – I have to admit…
… the subject of this email MAY have exaggerated a bit. Some parents are actually really great with this.
But for many, MANY parents – it’s tough as nails.
Here, the Chinese have a proverb that says it best: “Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes.”
Do you know that one? Can you think of a situation (or ten) where you can relate?
Most parents can.
It usually boils down to a simple, understandable problem: You want your kids to like you, and are afraid of being too mean or strict, and ruining your great relationship with them.
I usually offer this piece of advice to parents who are timid about putting their foot down…
“If your kid doesn’t like you at least once a day – you’re doing it wrong!”
It’s just part of the gig. The sooner you can get over this little hill that feels like a mountain…
… the sooner you’ll earn more respect and discipline from your kids.
Shameless plug: martial arts is also an amazing way to help your kids develop and enhance these traits.

If you’re trying to instill more patience, discipline and respect in your kids I can’t recommend martial arts enough.
Have a great one,

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts

Are you unconsciously competent?

Learning any new skill can be a frustrating experience. 

I regularly hear students say things like: 

“I’ll never be able to do this” 

“I’m not good enough” 

“It’s too hard!” 

The truth is, if that’s your attitude you probably wont be able learn it, or at the very least it will take you a lot longer than necessary. 

Most people view making mistakes or failure with negative emotions. It appears to be particularly common in martial arts. 

Everyone expects to be able to perform a technique first time perfectly. 

Unfortunately, this is simply not the case. 

After all I bet you weren’t driving like Ayrton Senna after you first lesson. 

Ironically, mistakes are a vital step in learning a new skill. 

Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb, famously said  “I have not failed 10,000 times – I’ve successfully  found 10,000 ways that will not work.” 

Like Edison, you should view mistakes as stepping stones to mastery. 

Understanding the process of learning can be of great help in maintaining the correct mindset and help you stay focused on developing the new skill. 

The Conscious Competence Learning Model defines four psychological stages in the process of learning a new skill through to mastery. 

Stage 1: Unconscious incompetence. 

Basically, you don’t know that you don’t know how to do something. 

To progress from this stage of learning you must recognise your own incompetence and accept the value of the new skill. 

The length of time an you stay in this stage will depend on the strength of the stimulus and motivation to learn a new skill. 

So if you have no plans on training you’ll probably remain unconsciously incompetent. 

Stage 2: Conscious incompetence. 

In this stage you know that you don’t know how to do something. 

To escape this stage you’ll need to practice and refine a new skill

Making mistakes at this stage are an integral part of the learning process, but with time and a little effort you can progress to stage 3. 

Stage 3: Conscious Competence. 

You know how to do something but it takes effort and. 

In this stage you know how to do something and can perform the skill, but it requires concentration and effort. 

A definite plan or process can be very useful at this stage to develop the skill. 

Eventually, you will reach Stage 4 

Stage 4: Unconscious Competence. 

You know how to so something instinctively. 

This is the final stage of learning a new skill and you reach it when your new skill has become second nature and you can perform it with ease. 

Whether you’re learning martial arts or any new skill you should make unconscious competence your ultimate goal. 

This is achievable for anyone through sustained practice and the correct tuition. 

So next time you step on the mat or attempt to earn a new skill do not become frustrated by making mistakes, or failing at your first attempt. 

Instead view it as a step on your way to mastery. 

See you on the mats.

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts

So your kid has a sweet tooth...

In this day and age, where diet & weight related problems are so common in kids…

… I thought you’d like to know of a little “trick” that satisfies a kid’s sweet tooth…

… while keeping them healthy.

After all, diabetes, and being overweight, are mostly due to refined sugar and simple carbs like white bread.

So, here are TWO EASY CHANGES you can make to keep your kid healthy and sound.

1. Agave nectar.

The agave plant is seriously a gift from nature. It’s super-sweet, but DOESN’T make your blood sugar go crazy like refined sugar does (this is the major cause of weight gain and diabetes).

You can cook with it… use it instead of syrup on pancakes and French toast…

… and even make cookies and such with it.

2. Stevia

The stevia plant is a no-calorie plant that also acts as a sugar substitute. It’s completely natural, and very healthy.

Like agave, it doesn’t impact your blood sugar levels either. And it’s not like Equal or Splenda – which are both processed and full of crazy chemicals.

Many people completely replace sugar with these products.

Or, they use these products to greatly REDUCE the amount of sugar their families use.

Hope you enjoyed this tip

Sifu Tony Child
Total Martial Arts